Sometimes, there are things which are beyond money. Some people will be wondering why some squabbles arise. Most of the times, they stem from money. But if not handled properly, they will grow and will no longer be a simple money issue.

Most of the times, they are a matter of principle, a matter of trust. Once a trust has been betrayed, it will never be the same. Trust has to be earned, and is very fragile. Once broken, the trust will be lost forever.

The past few days have been an amazing and awesome experience. An experience that is heart-warming, fulfilling and one that floods your heart with love. And I too felt that, I’ve stretched and grown to be a better person, someone who makes a difference being who I am.

As I relive the experience here as a first time coach for Patterns of Excellence (POE) Module 2 by Adam Khoo and Stuart Tan from Oct 3-Oct 7, I could still feel the exhilaration and the warm, fuzzy feeling I felt.

Initially, it didn’t start off quite well for myself. I did my best to complete my job at work and then rushed to AKLTG. As I reached there, I was just right on time for the Milton Model language patterns game.

It was really fun having a conversation with each other using the language patterns. I would remember how Robert used that to strike a conversation which means a lot to me, something that I felt the same way too.

I wouldn’t not deny that initially I was a bit lost, just like the feeling when I first coached for POE Module 1. I’m so thankful to have Tracy Tan as my co-coach for Mod 2, and also Uncle Yew Soon for Mod 1, who guided me through. Thank you Tracy and Uncle Yew Soon! Who you are really did make a difference!

After a while, I began to get the hang of it and I told myself that I will do my best to be the best coach I can be and at the same time, carry out the tasks assigned to me and also to help others out.

There were times when I do feel fear inside me, and it means a lot to me when I’ve conquered them! Just like how I see lives transformed up there, with soft breeze on my face and wind beneath the wings of eagles, bringing them soaring through the sky.

I would always remember the way the eyes lit up with joy when the participants have achieved their goals! I could feel a sensation of warm feeling rushing through me, and I could also feel as though my heart is smiling together with them. I was ecstatic, and at the same time, feel so happy to see breakthroughs in their lives! I will always remember these moments

I would also remember how one of them kissed his goal so many times and not willing to let go, how the tears of joy spouted from another girl’s eyes after she had conquered her fears and how another participant could finally enjoy the time she has with her son.

I’m also very touched when one of them wrote to me, saying my smile had meant a lot to her. I’ve never known I would mean so much to others. And as I realised that I could help to transform lives and helping others achieve breakthroughs in their lives, I vowed to myself to always give my best, to be the best person I can be.

All the challenges and fears that I’ve overcomed and conquered for the past few days, only means that I am now a more confident person, a more flexible person, a more loving person, a more capable person, a better communicator as well as a more resourceful person. And now I know, I can survive and remain energetic with only two to three hours of sleep a day

Thank you all for stretching me, and for allowing me to stretch you too. Thank you for giving me a chance to be the best coach I can be.

To fellow coaches - Pete, Lukas, Tracey, Tracy, Yew Soon, Robert, Tim, Dave, Eldhi, Jack, Jacklyn, Peter, Meng, Meng Chew, Iris, Winnie, Ee Yan, Ben, Ken, Alice, Ann, Adrian, Rachit, Jun De, Jing, Freddy, Linh, Woei Tang - thank your for being a part of my life, for your friendship and for brightening up my life. I felt so fulfilled with all the love I felt, answering to a part of me which has been yearning for it. I’ll remember all the hugs and kind words said to me, thank you all.

Think that you are efficient and good in your job? That’s great! However, if you think that alone is going to get you far, you might be in for a shock.

There is this someone who is really good in his/her work, but he/she was feared and disliked by many. Another one, who is also very sharp and efficient in his/her job, but disturbes the harmony in a team ever since he/she came in.

The thing which is sorely missing is the interpersonal skill. This thing is so important that it determines whether a person will be successful or not, be it in the corporate or the business world.

I had this observation that by just being good and excellent in your job alone is not enough. Without the good human relationship, people will still despise, just like the two examples above. And another example which I’ve presented earlier here, goes to show how important this thing called relationship skill is.

Sometimes, I feel, a good interpersonal relationship skill comes from a genuine, sincere and kind heart. No amount of training could substitute that. And I guess, the underlying factor would be love. If a person has love for another human being, the person would be able to have good relationship skill.

It has to come from the heart, not just from the brain, don’t you think so?

What does it means when an experienced person in a particular industry wants to fight with a newbie in the industry for work to do?

Initially I do not understand why this person with 20 over years in the industry wants to even do a job that a newbie does. I couldn’t comprehend, at first. Usually, I believe you would agree with me too, that someone with that kind of vast experience, would have ample and strong confidence of what he/she is doing.

However, the series of events that have happened baffled me. Until one day, I asked a good friend about it. And then it suddenly occurred to me that, this person could be sufferring from serious insecurity.

Probably he/she is afraid of the ‘day’, since he/she has been working for so long. It could also mean that the veteran sees the newbie as a threat to him/her. Could this also mean that the newbie’s job is as important or even more than the person’s?

Of course, the more empowering thought would be that the newbie is doing something of importance, so much so that even a veteran with 20 over years of experience could feel threatened. Hehe…you know which thought is better and more empowering to subscribe to, right?

This is the time for tears to flow. For some, they are tears of joy; for some, they are tears of sorrow.

Two people who worked equally hard, but received such vast different treatment.

One, had to bear hurting words hurled at her and having her capabilites being belittled.
Whereas for the other, had the higher people fawning over her.

My housemate volunteered cleavage as a possible reason.

From my observations, human relationship still matters in the end.
One had a few tiffs with the higher people, while the other can even joke like a normal friend with the higher people.

What is your say? What is the lesson to learn here?

Be on good terms with people and spare them any headache or problems. Better still if you can alleviate their problems and bring their blood pressure down. Then, you will have people fawning over you.

Harsh reality, but human is this strange being with interesting psychology.
To be successful, you would have to understand this.

Someone asked me what do I understand by the phrase ’survival of the fittest’.
Is it that the strongest always win? Maybe in the past, but no longer applicable these days.
In my definition, the fittest would be someone who can adapt to his or her surroundings the best.

In short, to survive, we need to adapt, and in today’s world, we need to adapt fast to the ever changing world. Flexbility… ahh yes, that’s the word. Be flexible. No one solution can cater to all situations. In this new world, it is customization to fit the situation.

And to the one, my heart goes out to her. I can understand her feelings well as I’ve been in a similar situation before. And to the other one, what did she do right?

I’m so happy~!! can’t stop grinning now hahahahha Yay!~

My site finally have a new look! Gave it a nice makeover and now it is really personalised! Ahh so proud of myself right now.

I picked up photoshop on my own with some guidance in just two nights! Wasted the first night with trials and errors though but second night was the productive one.

Thanks so much to my dear housemate Fen! He’s a genius!

Although I’ve have not learnt everything yet, at least I’ve known enough basic functions to get this banner up! Yippeee~! Woohoo~!!