Think that you are efficient and good in your job? That’s great! However, if you think that alone is going to get you far, you might be in for a shock.

There is this someone who is really good in his/her work, but he/she was feared and disliked by many. Another one, who is also very sharp and efficient in his/her job, but disturbes the harmony in a team ever since he/she came in.

The thing which is sorely missing is the interpersonal skill. This thing is so important that it determines whether a person will be successful or not, be it in the corporate or the business world.

I had this observation that by just being good and excellent in your job alone is not enough. Without the good human relationship, people will still despise, just like the two examples above. And another example which I’ve presented earlier here, goes to show how important this thing called relationship skill is.

Sometimes, I feel, a good interpersonal relationship skill comes from a genuine, sincere and kind heart. No amount of training could substitute that. And I guess, the underlying factor would be love. If a person has love for another human being, the person would be able to have good relationship skill.

It has to come from the heart, not just from the brain, don’t you think so?

What does it means when an experienced person in a particular industry wants to fight with a newbie in the industry for work to do?

Initially I do not understand why this person with 20 over years in the industry wants to even do a job that a newbie does. I couldn’t comprehend, at first. Usually, I believe you would agree with me too, that someone with that kind of vast experience, would have ample and strong confidence of what he/she is doing.

However, the series of events that have happened baffled me. Until one day, I asked a good friend about it. And then it suddenly occurred to me that, this person could be sufferring from serious insecurity.

Probably he/she is afraid of the ‘day’, since he/she has been working for so long. It could also mean that the veteran sees the newbie as a threat to him/her. Could this also mean that the newbie’s job is as important or even more than the person’s?

Of course, the more empowering thought would be that the newbie is doing something of importance, so much so that even a veteran with 20 over years of experience could feel threatened. Hehe…you know which thought is better and more empowering to subscribe to, right?

This is the time for tears to flow. For some, they are tears of joy; for some, they are tears of sorrow.

Two people who worked equally hard, but received such vast different treatment.

One, had to bear hurting words hurled at her and having her capabilites being belittled.
Whereas for the other, had the higher people fawning over her.

My housemate volunteered cleavage as a possible reason.

From my observations, human relationship still matters in the end.
One had a few tiffs with the higher people, while the other can even joke like a normal friend with the higher people.

What is your say? What is the lesson to learn here?

Be on good terms with people and spare them any headache or problems. Better still if you can alleviate their problems and bring their blood pressure down. Then, you will have people fawning over you.

Harsh reality, but human is this strange being with interesting psychology.
To be successful, you would have to understand this.

Someone asked me what do I understand by the phrase ’survival of the fittest’.
Is it that the strongest always win? Maybe in the past, but no longer applicable these days.
In my definition, the fittest would be someone who can adapt to his or her surroundings the best.

In short, to survive, we need to adapt, and in today’s world, we need to adapt fast to the ever changing world. Flexbility… ahh yes, that’s the word. Be flexible. No one solution can cater to all situations. In this new world, it is customization to fit the situation.

And to the one, my heart goes out to her. I can understand her feelings well as I’ve been in a similar situation before. And to the other one, what did she do right?

If you have been wondering what is The Secret, watch this. Worth watching. In this video produced by Rhonda Byrne, many famous successful people shares their philosophies in life. If you learn how to apply this, it will change your life. Enjoy the show and feel good!